I know what it's like to have it all and at the same time feel completely unfulfilled. Instead of settling, I took a risk and followed my heart to leave a toxic marriage and start over again in my career, but it was worth it. Today, I'm living the authentic life I always dreamed of and coaching other women to do the same.
Hi! I'm Danielle Lea
Many of us felt like a failure in life at least once. We feel that we are not living up to our full potential, and it can be difficult to overcome this feeling. This article will explore ‘why am I such a failure’ and provide insight on how to fix it by tapping into your own energy type. By understanding what drives you and focusing on your strengths, you can learn how to utilize them in order to push through feelings of despair and become successful instead. Let’s dive in…
You know how people all over the world clammer to create New Year’s resolutions before the fateful stroke of midnight?
Or spend their hungover New Year’s Day mapping out goals and plans for the shiny new blank slate that the promise of a new year brings?
Yeah, not me. Not anymore.
That’s sooo 1992.
Just like mindset work has run its course (uh oh, another truth bomb!) and we are now collectively focused on mental wellness, making action-oriented plans that are ‘laser focused’ on one thing are only good for one energy type.
And well, it’s not MY energy type.
Shout out to the Generators, I always wanted to BE you, to WORK like you, to get shit done like no one but a Generator can do. But it’s just not me.
And finally, at 43, I’m totally good with that. I’ve learned that my thirst for entertainment and participation across many different fields of interest can work in my favor.
I’ve finally let go of the shaming an old boss gave me when he accused me of getting bored with things quickly and decided to pass me over for a promotion, so he could hire one of the good ‘ol boys. <eye roll…but you know what I mean…>
Where are my aspiring corporate escapees? Are you listening? Mani-gens, I’m talking to you too!
These days I know my magic lies in my commitment to a wide variety of avenues, creating multiple streams of income, and teaching my clients how they, too can live in their most authentic and unique energy to create the life they really want.
But lemme take you back…
It was the begging of January, a solid week in, and I didn’t have a WORD…
<needle scratch on a 45>
📢I. DIDN’T. HAVE. A. WORD📢
Okay, so what’s the big deal about not having a word you ask? Remember how I said I ditched resolutions and goal setting and life planning, well, I replaced it with setting an intention.
Goals, by nature, are excruciatingly restrictive. And for me, if you tell me I can’t have something or can’t do something, I want it MORE. And I’m going to prove to you that no one will tell me that I can’t have what I want. It’s that simple. Juvenile, maybe, but still simple.
So, some number of years ago, clearly after my #ItDidntCrushMe™ moment, I decided there would be zero restrictions in my life. I would expand my heart and my energetic field so that I could live the HELL out of my life.
Nothing would stop me from creating the most extraordinary life after surviving a toxic marriage that ended in the suicide of my ex-husband ABUNDANCE was the first word I ever declared.
Can you see how vague the word abundance is?????
I mean, it’s the absolute antithesis of everything your “boss” has taught you about setting SMART goals, right? I can hear them all now (even myself teaching my sales teams in a past life) “you need to be more specific, what action will you commit to, make them time bound, blah, blah, blah”.
I cringe at the thought of it all now that I’ve learned the real secret to living a life beyond your wildest dreams. If I had only known then how much setting goals for my life was slowing me down, keeping me in life’s bell curve of average…it was simply a way of keeping up with the Joneses.
But the juiciest part of the lesson is the sweet vagueness of setting an intention, of imagining the lifestyle you want to live rather than the thing you want to do or be.
Vagueness will unlock and open doors your prefrontal cortex would never be able to recognize.
Now back to me and my word. Or lack thereof…
I’ve certainly learned that, in these blind moments, I need to be asking one simple question: “What is this showing me?”
And for me, a 6/2 Emotional Authority Mani-Gen, (I see you Human Design junkies), things need to feel really good for me to be a F*CK YES!
And that goes for ALL life decisions.
So, I listened, and I waited. And I waited even freakin’ longer. Like, ‘Hello Universe, I’m being sooo patient down here. I’m so ready for my word…!’ And finally, 18 whole days into this new year, I heard it.
Serendipitously, I received that communication on the exotic island of Hawaii as I landed for a short day trip and business meeting with my fabulously talented trademark attorney and (now) IRL friend.
That’s a big, scary one! I thought everything I said yes to in 2022 was a big scary yes, and yet here it is, vulnerable, surrounding me with it’s not so gentle nudges to show even MORE of myself.
Because, if there’s one thing in this lifetime, that I am unequivocally sure of, it’s that my energetic frequency is a magnetic beacon for other women who are ready to break free of societal bullsh*t and do what they want to do, not what has always been expected of them.
My life’s purpose is to hold that space and guide other audacious, ambitious, tenacious and badass women who’ve been through some heavy sh*t and have decided to live the HELL out of life.
I talk a LOT about surrender; this is clearly the ultimate year of ripping it all wide open. No more ‘why am I such a failure’ talk. To live more true and more whole than I could ever have *decided* to live as my human form. This is my soul’s purpose.
If you resonated with these ideas, I think you’re going to love my free video “How to create a soul-led life without fear, guilt, or doubt.” – WATCH IT HERE!
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